Save your marriage by doing nothing?

I would disagree that this article is about saving your marriage by doing nothing.  A key part of this article is that the wife involved chooses to avoid the drama of a separation and lets the husband make his own decisions.

I think also that there are easier ways to avoid this whole mess by trying to keep excitement and mystery in your marriage.

Trying this may work for some, but you have to be ready to take a large risk.

The article in question:

http://www.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,1978903,00.html?xid=huffpo-direct

I should ask my wife to put this on a cross-stitch sampler for me so I can hang it up in my office.

“The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.”

This sums up a lot of what I try to do in couples therapy. So many couples are comprised of people who have gotten so lost in their partner’s head that they lose track of the fact that they are separate individuals with separate needs. About 50% of the time, I try to help these couples learn this simple truth and help them to detach so that they can renegotiate their relationship.

If you are married (or if you aren’t), meditate on this simple slogan.

Quote of the Day

Marriage is three parts love and seven parts forgiveness of sins ~Langdon Mitchell